She had to call the police on the guy because he was trying to break into her place...Why would she ever even CONSIDER reaching out in order to return an item that may have sentimental value to him and his family? Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. i hope she loves the new bear. Based off that email blast that I did to my network back in December, I had one person reach out and ask to be my first customer. NTA for the coat, but WHY would you EVER give a poor animal away to an abusive person!! A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you were wrong in an argument that's been bothering you. It didn’t go out. Found out my ex got into a rebound relationship 5 months after our break-up and after WE were hooking up for the 4-months after all of it….it lasted a month, and when it ended, she reached out to me and is now coming out to visit me in a few weeks in my new city where I moved after we broke up and she moved out after a 7-year relationship. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I was given a fur coat from my ex's family and specifically told I could not upcycle it into a teddy bear. They would wait a while for things to cool down, and then they would give the dog back to me. What is wrong with you!! While I am very much against any animal abuse, I find it pretty shitty that women are valued even less. OP NTA. The Gun Politics subreddit is about sharing news, articles, stories and events related to guns & politics as well as discussion surrounding gun politics. I didn't respond and that is the last contact I have ever had with him. He said I could keep it. 4: There was also a scheme to take children or orphans of rebels. He moved out, took his stuff, gave me his apartment key, and we both moved on. And all of them changed their mind after cooperating with us. We were engaged. It took me a long time to realize that my ex was actually incredibly emotionally abusive to me. The family (who doesn't seem to have been involved in the abuse) entrusted you with something and you have taken it away from them to spite your ex. During the years of work, we have met thousands of disappointed students, who could not trust an essay writing service because of bad experience in the past. Gave an E S H judgement but spent the whole passage stating how a 'shitty relationship doesn't give her a free' and bashing the abuse victim, but doesn't put the same energy into bashing the actual abuser. You made an asshole move and the fact that you were in a shitty relationship to begin with doesn’t get you a free pass. You don't want your ex to destroy your stuff? 7: In June, Tukhachevsky received permission from Antonov-Ovseyenko's commission to begin use of chemical weapons, by direct order from the leadership of Red Army and from the Communist Party. I did it anyway after we broke up. OP made it clear she didn’t want to have the coat in the first place and they still forced her to take it, and the mom was actively involved in the abuse by making the ex take the dog away. My own and some dear friends. It wasn't long after this that I realized the fur coat was still in my closet and that he hadn't taken it with him when he left. Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. And in some areas, like coronavirus relief, getting money to people quickly is really important. At some point during our relationship his mom gave me her grandma's fur coat. Somehow he found out I had the dog again and he flipped out. She can do whatever she wants with it. I found out later through a nasty email he sent me that his mother had prompted him to take the dog from me and that the dog was living happily with a friend of his. I always hate how on reddit people just jump to conclusions and take the side of the OP just because they made the post. Behaving like this, he should be in JAIL. More posts from the AmItheAsshole community. In the first two weeks after release, the mortality rate is 49 deaths per 100,000 person-weeks, falling quickly to 17 deaths per 100,000 person-weeks in the subsequent two-week period. upcycle literally means to take one thing and make it into something new which is EXACTLY what she did. If the heirloom was that important, they should have kept it within the family. The coat was property of OP and what goes around comes around and good for her for taking something from the family that took away something she loved. And stop using the word “up cycling” to describe the destruction of a fur coat, and don’t trying to use that “symbolism” of something being beautiful to justify your poor judgment. Nope. well let me introduce you to the tambov rebellion, and just some of the shit that the soviets did to crush the rebellion. This holiday season my children (12, 8) are with my ex-wife abroad with her affair partner on holiday with my ex in-laws. My dad advised me that if I truly wanted to be rid of this man for good, I should just give up the dog. After talking to my parents, we agreed that I would give them the dog. If you're thinking, "Should I block my ex if I want him back," blocking your ex won't accomplish anything positive. So I had my mom turn it into a teddy bear. NTA at all. Press J to jump to the feed. It’s unfortunately naive to believe that cops will do anything. I did not respond to this situation well. (AP) — President Donald Trump renewed his grievance over the investigation into Russian interference in the 2016 election by pardoning Paul Erickson, a … TL;DR My ex's mom gave me a family heirloom fur coat and told me not to upcycle it into a teddy bear. We are proud to be the leader in the field of academic and education writing. If you want anywhere to focus your attention on focus on legislation in your own state, theres no point in fighting a bill doomed to die in the court while a similar smaller bill is passed in your state because you were focusing on the national level. ENGLEWOOD, Colo. (AP) — John Elway’s replacement as Broncos general manager will be Vikings executive George Paton. Fuck em. You owe them a massive apology. You're not wrong. Perhaps there were better solutions both for the dog and for OP but if she was in fear of his harassment, she was probably in survival mode. I didn't respond and that is the last contact I have ever had with him. Not to mention we only have one side of the story. The optimism as vaccines begin to roll out was tempered as more respondents – 42%, down from 47% in the last survey – still expect the pandemic to get worse over the next three months. He nearly broke into my apartment trying to get her and I had to call the police on him. I spent weekend after weekend taking long drives to binge Netflix and wine, snuggle, cry, and process my heartbreak out loud with people who loved me. After we broke up, I did. I got my dog back. No posts about Reddit/Social Media from non-official sorces. It wasn't your family heirloom and your ex's family asked you not to destroy it. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns. Completely agree with this comment. What a horrible person and my condolences for what happened to you. Source. Niceties such as offering to return an item left behind in a break up are off the table. Technically speaking it was his dog since he was home all the time working on his master's degree. He did a shitty thing. TL;DR My ex's mom gave me a family heirloom fur coat and told me not to upcycle it into a teddy bear. ETA: I did what I did out of spite but also out of a need for healing. 3: The same was true for hiding insurgents—in this case, however, the family was additionally expropriated and deported. My mom is a master seamstress. To me it symbolized that something horrible could be used to make something new and beautiful. I told my ex's family that I would never wear this coat and that it would likely sit in a closet for the rest of my life and asked if I could instead have my mom turn it into a bear and give it new life. Denver hasn’t reached the … PIERRE, S.D. The behavior of lying to the children about an ex-spouse is called “parental alienation” and is considered by the courts to be a serious offense. He had slowly chipped away at all my self worth and alienated all my friends and most of my family. it was also something given to her, she tried to give it back & they didn’t want it. It got to the point where I truly believed that I was an awful person and he was a saint for putting up with me and that no one would ever love me except for him. Beyond that, they gave her the coat. The entire middle four paragraphs of your story is completely irrelevant. They were fine that I would never wear it and still wanted me to have it since there was at least the possibility that maybe someday I would wear it and I was again told that no one else in the family wanted it. EXTRA EDIT: I can't believe all the people blaming OP for giving her ex the dog. If it takes months to make a grant and more months for the money to arrive, it … See our ~~*Best Of*~~ "Most Controversial" at /r/AITAFiltered! AITA for repurposing my ex's family heirloom? therefore OP can do whatever she wants with it!!! 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